"If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone."-Ecclesiastes 4:11
I used this verse in another one of the DARES but I think its good we do some refreshing. In our homes God doesn't want us to "COEXIST", he wants unity. He doesn't want us living as peaceable enemies...that's an awful way to live. There is no joy in that...its fake! He doesn't want us to be enemies but to live in peace with one another and with Him. If you think about it God created man and woman to be opposites to help eachother. We are not God nor any superhero, we can't be everything to everyone. We can't be perfect at every sport or have all the different characterestics that make up every human being. First of all that's boring and bizarre! Why would you want clones of you walking around? Don't you get on your own nerves enough as it is? God made our bodies to fit together, he made our "oneness" to produce children. He gave men certain attributes that women don't have and vice versa. Its really amazing and beautiful.
For example, my husband and I have disagreed and been opposites in many areas of our life. But when those ideas or characteristics come together it brings us a healthy balance. I am such an emotional person, I often think and reach out with my heart. I, at times, am so driven and moved by emotion that I can lack in processing reality. My husband lacks emotion....he doesn't reach out with his heart very often. He processes things first before acting out sometimes. He is able to be discerning when necessary. He keeps me level headed, while I bring him understanding of compassion. We balance each other out. God knew that when He brought us together, He knew that I needed Roosevelt and he needed me. We are just like a puzzle...God puts those pieces in our life where He knows they will fit. My husband, thank God for his muscular arms, is much stronger than me in so many ways. Physically, I need his strength at home. I am weaker when it comes to lifting and moving things. He completes me in that aspect. When it comes to "parenting", both of us come from very different backgrounds, and were raised completely different. He was all about discipline and I was all about love. But children need a healthy balance of both. "Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is no one to lift him up." (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). I love this verse because it paints the picture of completeness. In my time of panic, anxiety, and depression my husband was there to lift me up. He didn't know how to handle it but he was my strength when I was weak. I needed him to help. I fell and fell hard, I couldn't be the mom I needed to be and wasn't able to manage certain simple tasks. But just having him there lifted my spirit.
God uses our differences for His glory. We aren't always going to be in agreeance with everything. Often times we are on opposite sides of the spectrum....but we need to meet in the middle. God wants us to have balance in all areas of our life. God wants us to meet Him in the middle. He knows what's best for us. He can see the big picture. Stop believing that in your life and marriage things are always going to be perfect. Its those differences that will bring us closer to each other. Its those differences that bring us closer to God. In those times where you don't see eye to eye..stop and look at the big picture. God put you together for a reason and they are the missing piece in your puzzle....his strengths make up for your weaknesses. Her compassion and gentleness makes up for your sterness and stubborness. You complete each other. You fit together and can stay together through differences and all! God is your glue people! You, your marriage, your children and family are all His design! He loves your uniqueness. He made you and your spouse a team to build eachother up and encourage one another. He made you to literally lay next to that person and keep warm. He brought you that person to carry you in times where you just can't go any further. You are joined together, you are greater than your independent parts. You need eachother.
THE DARE: TODAY HUMBLE YOUR HEARTS AND CHOOSE TO LOOK AT YOUR DIFFERENCES IN ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE. IF YOU HAVE MAJOR DECISIONS TO MAKE FINANCIALLY, JOB WISE, PARENTING ETC....LISTEN TO YOUR SPOUSE. STOP THINKING YOUR WAY IS ALWAYS THE RIGHT WAY. LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU DESIRE THEIR COUNSEL. IF YOU HAVE IGNORED THEIR INPUT IN THE PAST, ADMIT IT AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS. CHOOSE TO WORK THROUGH YOUR DIFFERENCES. REALIZE THEY ARE THE MISSING PIECE TO YOUR PUZZLE...THAT THEY DO COMPLETE YOU AND GOD MADE YOU A PERFECT FIT. YOU BALANCE EACH OTHER OUT IN YOUR OPPOSITIONS.
God Bless you today. I am praying that you will embrace your spouses uniqueness. I hope god will take the blinders from your eyes and you will see your spouse completes you. Look at your diiferences as positives. I'm praying you find balance in all things. Xoxoxo!
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