"ENJOY LIFE WITH THE WIFE YOU LOVE ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR FLEETING LIFE."- Ecclesiastes 9:9
As you can see....todays DARE is strictly for the MEN to do! Just kidding...sorry ladies...we are involoved too...lol! This challenge today really takes some soul searching and mind training. Before we dive into this I want you to ask yourself why you are doing this DARE. DO U FEEL LED BY YOUR HEART? Do you feel it was the wise thing to do? Or u really aren't sure why your reading this everyday? Well no matter what the reason, its a blessing you are following along. I pray that everyones heart and mind would be in this because one of the most important things you should learn on this LOVE DARE journey is that you should not just follow your heart, you should LEAD it! I speak to myself when saying this (and most women), we cannot let our feelings and emotions always do the driving! We need to put them in the back seat and tell them where we are going! For women it may be more of a challenge because its in our nature to be lead with our heart...we reach out with our hearts, while men process things from their heart to their brain (or vice versa) and then reach out. So today everybody take a deep breath, drink coffee and get the wheels in ur mind turning and really clear your brain from all negativity or stresses.....FOCUS!
In a marriage relationship, you won't always FEEL like loving. Its unrealistic for you heart to constantly be thrilled at spending every waking hour (and sleeping) with your spouse. Nobody can maintain a burning desire on just feelings alone! Its also difficult to love them out of obligation. For newlyweds that burning desire lingers and you do burn with this new love. But for us longer married folk there is something just as powerful as new love, its called DECISION. We need to choose love...love is choice put into action. We need to choose to delight in our spouse quirks and all! Choose to DELIGHT and unchoose DISGUST. Yes, I said it...disgust...you all know what I am talking about. You all have various thoughts that run through your mind on a bad day! Love that chooses to love is just as powerful as love that feels like loving. In most ways its truer love because its eyes are wide open...looking passed all the negative.
Let your heart lead to once again delight in your spouse and really really take the time to ENJOY them. Desire their conversation, take their hand when walking, hug them while their standing in the kitchen or just look into their eyes and admire there beauty. We need to delight in those things once again that attracted us to them in the first place. I know this seems repititive, but its so important we bring those loving thoughts and feelings back. Its important everyday we really live in the "APPRECIATION ROOM" of our hearts (DAY 7). We need to remember why we fell in love in the first place.
Again, we choose what we treasure. We weren't not born with certain preferences we are destined to operate from. 'Your treasure is where ur heart is....'. If we irritable, its because we choose to be (however, for some of us women during that time of the month, it is harder to control). If we can't function without a clean house its because we decided no other way will do (guilty) and if you pick at your spouse more than u praise them....its because you've allowed your heart to be selfish and be led by criticism (also guilty....ugh, I really need work, geez).
I have a title for this next part (we need to lead our heart out of the negative). I Would like to call our makeover: "REHABILITATION". I honestly believe that starting over and wiping the slate clean could be considered as rehabilitation. We need therapy, our minds and hearts need to be healed and worked all over again. We need training and excercise of our heart and mind. First it starts with giving it all to the Lord. Letting go and letting Him heal and then when u have truly forgiven then u can be trained to once again delight in ur spouse. Trust me....my husband and I have been there. Its no easy road or easy task....but it is possible with Christ. He was able to literally heal my broken heart overnight. Not saying this will happen to any of you. But I know that only God can do a miracle like that. The only thing I did was CHOOSE to let the past go.
Song of Solomon in the Bible is a perfect example of a beautiful love story. They take pleasure in one another. I suggest reading this! Men...stop worrying about being too mushy. Its not wimpy...it shows u r a true MANLY MAN. If u can show and express the love u feel in heart without holding back, u would be that Knight in Shining Armor. You would be our Hero! Women, if u could express your true love without being afraid of rejection, you may just win his heart. Be kind, be gentle and be compassionate. Don't let ur ugliness on the inside come out like a roaring lion. Don't be a nag...u will do the opposite. Be ur husbands encourager...delight in his great abilities!
It is your responsibility to relearn what you love about the person u promised to be with forever!
THE DARE: PURPOSEFULLY NEGLECT AN ACTIVITY YOU WOULD NORMALLY DO SO YOU CAN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR SPOUSE. DO SOMETHING HE OR SHE WOULD LOVE TO DO LIKE (WATCH A MOVIE ...WITHOUT FALLING ASLEEP), TAKE A WALK, PLAY A GAME, READ UR BIBLE TOGETHER, OR JUST TURN EVERYTHING OFF AND JUST HAVE A DEEP CONVERSATION (WITHOUT NEGATIVITY OR ARGUING, JUST SIT AND LISTEN AND OBSERVE)
GOD BLESS YOU ALL TODAY. I PRAY YOU ALL HAVE A WILLING HEART, MIND AND SPIRIT TO TRULY DELIGHT IN CHRIST AND YOUR SPOUSE. I'M. TRULY PRAYING YOU DESIRE ONENESS WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND TRULY DESIRE CHRIST AS YOUR FOUNDATION. TRUST ME WHEN I SAY, IF U TAKE CHRIST OUT OF UR LIFE AND MARRIAGE IT WILL NOT WORK. HE IS OUR GLUE. THE WORLD WILL DO ANYTHING TO DESTROY IT FROM ALL ENDS.....
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