"LOVE IS AS STRONG AS DEATH, ITS JEALOUSY UNYIELDING AS THE GRAVE. IT BURNS LIKE BLAZING FIRE"-SONG OF SOLOMON 8:6
"Jealousy is one of the strongest drives known to man. It comes from the root word for zeal and means 'to burn with an intense fire." Scripture says, "wrath is fierce and anger is a floodbut who can stand before jealousy?" (Proverbs 27:4)"
"There two forms of jealousy, one being LEGITIMATE jealousy and the other being ILLEGITIMATE.
Legitimate jealousy is based on love. Its when someone u love, who belongs to u, turns their heart away and gives it to someone else. For example, when a wife has an affair and gives herself to another person, her husband may have a justified jealous anger because of his love for her. He is longing to have back what is rightfully his. The Bible also describes God as having this kind of righteous jealousy for His people. God isn't envious of us, its that He longs for us, desiring for us to keep Him as our first love. '....the Lord ur God is a consuming fire, a jealous God."-Deuteronomy 4:24
ILLEGITIMATE jealousy is the opposite of LOVE. Its rooted from selfishness and means,"to be moved with envy or be resentful of someone because of their success or advantages."
For most of us jealousy is a huge and common struggle. (It goes all the way back through scripture to the story of Cain and Abel....this burning envy led to the first murder) I believe jealousy is a poison passed down from generation to generation. It's a bondage that many people live in. Jealousy can be really difficult to break free from. "Jealousy can slither its way in your heart like a viper and strike ur motivations and relationships. It can poison u from living the life of love that God intended. If we don't learn to diffuse our anger by learning to love others we may eventually begin to plot against them. The Bible says that envy leads to fighting, quarreling and every evil thing."-James 3:16, 4:1-2
Usually we are tempted to be jealous of those around us (work, neighborhood, circle of friends or aquaintances etc.) I think we woman...being as catty as we r, may be very easily tempted by it. I know myself and I have stuggled with it my whole life. We always want or desire what the other person has and sometimes when we can't have it that envy turns to anger. Its awful....even people in their marriages can struggle with jealousy. Its like a constant competition. Instead we are to be our spouses biggest fan and cheerleader! We are to share our enjoyments and success with one other. But if selfishness rules in our marriage than u may be more envious then congratulatory.for example, the hubby maybe enjoying golf on the weekend while she stays home cleaning or taking care of the kids. He talks about his great day and she's boiling with anger inside. Or maybe she's always invited to go out with friends and he has none so he always at home watching tv. Maybe one gets a promotion at work while the other has been in the same position for years. That can create resentment if ur not careful.j
LOVE isn't selfish and puts others first. When ur married u become a team. U need to celebrate ur success together. We literally need to put on that cheer uniform ladies and route for our man! Husbands u need to know ur not competing and ur wife is to complete u. Love, humility and gratefulness need to destroy any jealousy before the jealousy destroys ur relationship! Choose to keep living in the APPRECIAITION ROOM...START SHOWING GENUINE LOVE FOR UR SPOUSE...NOT BITTERNESS OR ENVY!
THE DARE: DETERMINE TO BECOME UR SPOUSES BIGGEST FAN AND DETERMINE TO REJECT ANY THOUGHTS OF JEALOUSY. TO HELP SET UR HEART ON UR SPOUSES AND FOCUS ON THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS, TAKE THE LIST OF NEGATIVES FROM YESTERDAY AND DISCREETLY BURN IT. THEN SHARE WITH YOUR SPOUSE HOW GLAD U R ABOUT A SUCCESS HE OR SHE RECENTLY ENJOYED!
Praying for everyone. Jealousy is a sneaky thing. I'm praying we will all see the motivation of our love. I encourage u before resentment or bitterness arise check ur heart...see if there are jealousies growing inside u....pray about ur struggles and ur spouses. Keep LOVE ur reason to keep going....
GOD BLESS U AND KEEP U!
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