"LIVE WITH YOUR WIVES IN AN UNDERSTANDING WAY....AND SHOW HER HONOR AS A FELLOW HEIR OF THE GRACE OF LIFE."-1 Peter 3:7
There are certain words in our language that have powerful meaning and hold high value. These words never lose their quality, class or dignity. One of those words is HONOR. When the word HONOR IS USED you associate it with 'respect' or nobility.
To honor someone means to give them respect and high esteem, to treat them special and of great worth. When you speak to them you keep your language clean and understandable, you are also courteous and polite. Much like when someone visits The Queen of England (there are certain ways you are to show honor to her).
There are also ways we should honor our spouses. For example; when they are speaking to us we should take them seriously, giving their words significance or when they ask you to do something, you accomdate them simply out of respect. In a true marriage, honoring your mate means you give them your full attention, not talking to them behind a newspaper or while keeping your eyes on the television. That is seriously so annoying...lol. Both my husband and I appreciate being looked at when we are talked too and find it rude and disrespectful when our eyes are focused on something else while in conversation. Its a way u show honor and respect to your spouse. Its also a way of 'delighting' (yesterdays DARE) in them. Your spouse wants your focus and when you give that too them intently it allows them to feel honored. When your spouse has to snap their fingers in ur face and say, "HELLOOOO, eyes over here please! Can u listen?"....then you have issues! Maybe an ettiquette course would be necessary and helpful....lol!
The other word today is a word that calls us to an even higher place. Its a word that forms the basis of honor and not many people associate it with marriage. Its the word, HOLY. When we think of 'holy' we think more about God. But 'holy' doesn't mean to be perfect, it means to be set apart for a higher purpose (no longer common, comfortable, or everyday) but special and unique. A person (which should be your spouse) who is holy to you has a special place in your heart that no one can rival. They are sacred and a person to be praised and defended. (Lol...I can't help but think of Robin Hood,the movie with Kevin Costner....and the soundtrack song from Bryan Adams) don't judge ok...I thought that was a great example....he is defending and protecting her. He also honors her in high respects!
We women treat our bridal gowns as sacred! Its a material thing but maybe u will understand through this analagy. We wear it on that special day and afterwards we cover it, seal it and protect it. We also set it apart from everything else in our closets. (If ur me...it so set apart that u can't even find it). But we won't be wearing it around town or doing dishes and chores in it and using it for everyday wear and tear life...heck no! That thing is sacred and protected! No one is touchin it!
When we marry we are joined together in 'HOLY matrimony'. We are joined in holiness as one and set apart from everyone else. We are joined in togetherness to be intimate with only eachother, to have children together and develop a life with this person.
If your marriage isn't the way you want it today and you or your spouse do not feel honored, but instead disrespected then its important that today you start over and choose LOVE. LOVE HONORS WHEN ITS REJECTED. Easier said then done. But don't keep going in the CRAZY CYCLE. Make a change. Be devoted to honoring your spouse and set them apart from the rest. Hold them in high value....a priceless value! When feeling unloved or your marriage is lacking in so many ways...be the bigger person and make an attempt. I dare u too try. I dare you to honor ur spouse, delight in them, cherish them and forgive them. I dare u to love them.
THE DARE: CHOOSE A WAY TO REALLY SHOW HONOR AND RESPECT TO YOUR SPOUSE TODAY THAT IS ABOVE AND BEYOND YOUR NORMAL ROUTINE. OPEN UP A DOOR FOR HER, PUT AWAY HIS CLOTHES. TAKE YOUR EYES OFF WHATEVER ELSE YOUR LOOKING AT (except if ur driving) AND LISTEN TO THEIR WORDS. SHOW UR SPOUSE THE IMPORTANT SIGNIFICANCE THEY HOLD IN YOUR LIFE.
Really focus on the words HONOR and HOLY....apply these to your marriage and your relationship with Christ. I'm praying for all of u today....praying for CHANGE. I'm praying a difference will be made. God Bless You, Provide for you and Protect you and ur marriages.
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