"HE WHO COVERS OVER AN OFFENSE PROMOTES LOVE, BUT WHOEVER REPEATS THE MATTER SEPERATES CLOSE FRIENDS."-Proverbs 17:9
Marriage is to be the most intimate relationship physically and emotionally. We can have other close relationships with friends and sibilings but none other compares to the relationship between man and woman that God created in Marriage. He designed us to be so intimate that He made us to be as one! How much closer can u get to a person when u are one!? You're are connected, joined at the hip and glued so tightly that there are no cracks of division.
In some marriages though the cracks are visible. But we as humans need those cracks( or voids) filled with something. You may not realize it but its true. We all have certain voids in our life and deep issues that u try n tuck away. Instead of letting those wounds heal in a slow healing process by nursing it, you just slap on a band-aid. You try and keep yourself busy with other things, you drink so u don't have to think about anything or you go shopping because 'stuff' makes you feel better etc etc. We all have cracks. What's dangerous is those cracks in your marriage. What are u filling or 'repairing' those cracks with. Is it working all the time so u don't have to spend time with your spouse? Is it hanging with your friends? Is it a flirtatious relationship with someone at work?
Is the foundation of your marriage sturdy and rock solid? We need our marriages to be set on a safe firm foundation. Take a building for example....buildings can not stand on a cracked foundation...its unsafe. Eventually that building will crumble and fall. Our marriages will do the same. Meeting each others needs whether it be phsically or emotionally is so important. You cannot hold a marriage together with selfishness...it doesn't work! You have to be selfless and put your spouse first. We as humans need to feel loved, valued and need to feel we matter. We need to know that our desires are important to our spouse. If our desires and voids are not met by our spouses then we will eventually look for them to be met by something or someone else!
I know when you think of the word "Intimacy" you probabley automatically associate it with sex but it also means closeness, affection and warmth. We need to create an intimate safe haven in our marriages. It needs to be a place where you feel warmth, comfort and security. We need to be able to share our secrets without judgement or ridicule. Before you have a great intimate sex life its important you have a close emotional initmate bond. For most of us women we need to feel connected and close with our spouse before we can fully give ourselves to our husbands physically. For men sex is probabley more important....lol! Just kidding I know you men have emotion! The reality of intimacy always takes time to develop especially after being compromised but trust can be rebuilt. Intimacy in a marriage in ALL WAYS is so important. Be watchful of any 'cracks'. The devil will always see an open oppurtunity to cause division. Pray against these things. Pray for God to fill these voids. If ur marriage lacks physical intimacy be honest with your spouse about it. This opens up oppurtunities to sin sexually and the devil will tempt you in those weaknesses. If your marriage lacks emotional intimacy be honest with your spouse. Ask them to listen to your needs and don't go running to the hot co-worker. Don't flirt with temptation. Prevent it before problems occur.
THE DARE: TODAY DESIRE TO PROMOTE INTIMACY IN YOUR MARRIAGE. START WITH PROMOTING IT FIRST EMOTIONALLY. THEN PRAY FOR GOD TO REVEAL ANY CRACKS YOU MAY HAVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND IF SO THINK ABOUT HOW THEY ARE BEING FILLED. DESIRE TO CREATE A SAFE HAVEN IN YOUR MARRIAGE AND LISTEN TO YOUR SPOUSES NEEDS AND STRUGGLES WITHOUT CRITICISM. PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TO BE PROTECTED FROM ANY DANGERS.
GOD BLESS YOU. I AM PRAYING FOR REVELATION AND PROTECTION IN YOUR MARRIAGE. I am praying your marriage be filled with true and ultimate intimacy in everyway. I'm praying you will choose today to start fresh and start filling your 'cracks' with God's Love and will choose to handle things the way you know the Lord would want u too. Love you all and your dedication. Please choose God and your marriage!
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